why not?
Justice is a weird concept, and whether we should long for it or not, I am not very sure. There’s a very thin line between being fair and being vindictive. I am not pompous enough to say I know much about imparting justice. The kind of justice some people need to be able to finally forget hurting. Nor do I know the pleasure of holding the whip and lashing at someone who in my head, I believe has wronged me — if I claim to be okay and happy with my life. Besides I hate self-righteous people with a passion (of 3 bitches in heat). Especially the ones who easily forget that they wear tattered reputations under their pretentious cloaks of honor (believe me, bitch fits are never glamorous, and they never make the right point).
What I know and understand is Pareto efficiency and I think it should be the basic principle of forgiveness and moving on.
Given a set of alternative allocations and a set of individuals, a movement from one allocation to another that can make at least one individual better off, without making any other individual worse off, is called a Pareto improvement or Pareto optimization (source: Wikipedia)
I think we should all try to be that individual that though not the one made better off will try until our noses bleed to not at all feel worse off from a movement. From a change. Treat it like it was a charitable deed, maybe the person who is made better off needs it more than you, or better (or worse, depends on your perspective), deserves it more than you. 
This movement is a step forward towards growth and well, it’s like coming down from a high that was never good for you. Or a high that was never good. Period.
If you see yourself ending up somewhere you like at least, there should be no more bitter pill to swallow. Especially when you know that the direction to which you are heading has always been the less empty one, and the point where you came from will never give you the peace and the esteem that is rightfully ours.
After you have moved in on the situation and moved on towards something else, as time passes, you notice that those who have wronged you are still conspicuously drowning in guilt and brazenly manifesting it. Or maybe they are gloating at the fact that you felt a small tragedy with your loss, but then who gives a rat’s rump? That’s when you can quietly smile, look up and say a quick thank you to the heavens for sending the muses to inspire you to love yourself first and get a move on. You laugh at the prank that the Fates have played on you because you now appreciate that the funny thing about justice is that most of the time – it’s free.
I’m still not fatalistic and still not the type to say that something absolutely out of my control directed me to where I am now, but I, for some reason succumb to the truism – things fall nicely into place if malice was never in your heart.
An allocation of resources is Pareto efficient or Pareto optimal when no further Pareto improvements can be made.
You will know when that happens, and you will appreciate, gumption, finally.
Much of the content is directed to a friend of mine who is undergoing a wonderful change in her life, she deserves it.
I adore gay people and I love the lingo. I used to speak it, now I don’t remember much. Last night I read a small dictionary by Louie Cano on Pinoy Pop Queer and started to remember why gay people rule.
Katol – mukhang katulong
Variables – spare change
Tahong – girl
Hipon – magandang katawan, pangit ang mukha (as in tinatapon ang ulo ng hipon usually)
Spluk – to speak
Shurely Fuentes – sure
Joana – flat chestd (dyoga, wala na)
Jollibee – dyogang mailbag
Jaguar – guardiya
Bill Clinton – restaurant bill
Etc etc. Yun na.
